Homework for Lindsay, Week 1:

Testing Your Thoughts

Thoughts may be 100% true, 0% true, or somewhere in the middle. Just because you think something is true, doesn’t necessarily mean it is true.

Thought: “I’m losing the thing that makes me a Good person (i.e., restriction)”

What is the situation?

The more I continue to engage in the program and eat consistently, the more I feel like I’m losing my ability to restrict, which is the thing that makes me feel (1) like a Good person, (2) like I am capable of difficult things, (3) like I am disciplined and able to control my impulses, and (4) like I am able to regulate my feelings and cope with my emotions. At the core of it all, I am terrified that if I don’t restrict, I will indulge to an extreme degree, in all aspects of my life, and that I won’t be able to stop myself.

What am I thinking or imagining?

I am scared that restricting is the only thing that makes me successful, disciplined/regulated, and a Good person, so by moving towards recovery, I am giving that up. I am imagining that without restriction, I will spiral into a state of dysregulation, ambivalence, and greed, where I don’t care about anything, don’t have the motivation or discipline to push myself, don’t have the ability to regulate my emotions or cope with my feelings, don’t have any interest in living, and am completely disorganized and out-of-control. I also imagine not being able to stop myself from indulging in things that I see as “off-limits,” like food, self-care, leisure, and pleasurable activities. It feels like I have spent my whole life building a wall to keep my actual wants and desires contained, and if I take down that wall, I will just want to indulge all the time and not be able to stop myself. It feels like my ability to deny myself enjoyable things is what makes me so productive and good at school/work, so losing that ability is very scary to me. It’s also embarrassing and shameful to admit that I even have a desire or interest in eating or in doing pleasurable things, and at my core I am scared that I have no ability to consume food or do those fun things in moderation—I would just keep on going and never stop. It feels like everyone else naturally has something in their brain that says “alright, I’m satisfied now,” after a certain amount of having something good. It feels like my brain doesn’t have that—and even though my wise minds knows that this can be a biological side-effect of long-term restriction, I still can’t make myself trust that my hypothetically recovered self will ever feel “satisfied”; I will always want more because I am undisciplined and indulgent at my core. Even writing this down is shameful to me because I have never admitted to myself or anyone else that I actually have these wants.

What is the cognitive distortion?

What makes me think the thought is true?